frequently asked questions
Q: isn't this just lesbians experiencing the equivalent of comphet, and not actual attraction? what's the difference?
A: compulsory heterosexuality is a result of societal pressure, and the idea that to be a woman or to have any connection to femininity you must be attracted to men (and vice versa.)... not all mspec lesbians are attracted to men! some are, but a majority are not, thus there is no comphet to be had. some mspec lesbians are also reclaiming the historical label of lesbian. regardless, in either case, not all of us experience comphet.
Q: is this a joke or a prank?
A: no.
Q: don't you just wanna call yourself a dyke?
A: no.
Q: okay but even if it isn't a joke, do you really need a label?
A: some people find comfort in microlabels that are more specific to their experiences. maybe there's not much difference between 'paraboy' and 'demiboy,' but people might be more comfortable with one label than the other, and that's totally okay. it doesn't harm anyone
Q: doesn't this make the LGBT community look like a joke?
A: LGBT people "look like jokes" to allocishets the second we are openly LGBT. playing respectability politics gets us nowhere. decades ago, the same sentiment was held towards feminine gay men. ostracizing part of our community because you are worried about how people on the outside will feel does nothing to help anyone here. if you genuinely think this makes the lgbt community looks like a joke, please consider spending the time and energy you're using on discourse to boost and donate to LGBT people's gofundmes and money links.
Q: is it okay to joke about this label?
A: i cannot force you to joke or not joke about something, but this is something that people have been harassed & sent gore + death threats over. i understand it might seem like stupid discourse to you, but from the perspective of the people involved it is much more serious.